Sorry I haven't blogged in a few weeks, I have been busy with finals and life itself. I did receive a invite to be added to the blog exchange, however I am not quite ready to be added to the blog exchange until I have gotten my test locks put in. Due to financial strains right now that may not happen until November at that time I will add myself to the blog exchange.
The title of this blog "We are not our Hair" is also one of my songs on my muzic post listen to the song digest the lyrics.
What made me post this title, a few weeks ago I was talking to my SL's consultant. We were discussing why I had waited so long to get SL's. I began telling her I waited over 6 years before finally making the decision to get SL's and now I am having financial difficulties (Which I know the Lord will guide me through).
Of course my consultant had to send me a picture of a Master Loctitians SL's who has had them for 6 years just to show me how long my hair would have been had I not hesitated. Shame on her LOL =oA
My first reason for hesitation was how will my employer or future employers feel about SL's, will I be denied gainful employment in which I am qualified for because I wear SL's. Will I be viewed as a rebel?
My second hesitation, was will I still be appealing to the opposite sex. Society has taught Black men not to appreciate the Black woman as the African Queens we are when we wear our hair natural in any form of being natural whether a TWA(teeny weeny afro), Natural short fade, Traditional Locks or even SL's.
Society has us believing that if our hair is not straight and flowing we are not beautiful..hence "WE are not Our Hair".
I was more concerned with what my Brotha's would think, moreso the man in my life up until recently I felt I had to have long weaves, pony tails, micro braids down my back etc. to be attractive to the man in my life or any black for that matter.
Hey... I live in Arizona, where Black men are preferring the White/Latino females over the African American(Black) women out here. That became a struggle as well, I was having a identity crisis for real.
Until I decided this is my hair, I can wear it short and natural and I am just as beautiful or even more beautiful being naturally nappy me.
I cut the perm out of my hair, which was breaking off from the perm and the dry heat here in Az anyway. My fiance came home asking what did you do to your hair, "I said to him I am tired of wearing wigs,weaves etc. this is who I am accept me as who I am." I then began pulling up websites with Sista's in SL's, showing him..hence still seeking his approval..He liked the SL's just wasn't cool with the TWA although when he first met me I had a TWA but according to him it wasn't as short. Funny
Needless to say I told him I want SL's, I am not putting any more perm in my hair or wearing any wigs,weaves etc. from now on I am naturally nappy me.. like it or not..of Course he liked it..
For I am not my hair I am a woman with a personality, and charm I am loving, a caring nurturing mother and woman, I am a educated spirit filled woman. I am a Black woman arriving from ancestors of the desert sands of Africa.
So sisters with this being said, let's not worry or consider what others may think about our natural beauty we need not seek approval to be who we are...from any other race, employer, society or our male counter parts.
Be Blessed My Nappy Sister Lock Sistahs
Much Love
We Are Not Our Hair.
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Yes Angela, I truly agree with you, we are not our hair...I believe as we (the body of Christ) become new creatures through Christ Jesus, Our Father God fine tunes us and gives us a new found respect and a greater understanding about his perfect creation "Man"...Remember GOD IS the creator of mankind and he makes NO mistakes. So as we look into the mirror at our bodies (small framed or large) we are made in the image of HIM, and that should give us all a new prospective when we look upon our beautiful hair...No not hair that has been created for the Asian woman, the East Indian or the European woman, but for US, the unique black woman with all her beautiful different skin tones accented by the many different textures of equally beautiful hair. I am proud of you Angela on your decision to allow your true beauty to shine through. And as your Sisterlock consultant, I too can not wait until my hands are in your beautiful natural hair that was made just for you, Created by GOD...Blessings
The importance of all of this, is that you finally reached the realization that 'we are indeed not our hair'. What you've experienced up until now is how you saw yourself girlfriend...... Beauty has to come from within.....you know, love yourself and the rest will follow.
Much love and keeping the faith.xx
well put, I have been natural for three years, I have won over a lot of sistahs in the work place to go natural, but there are still some who tell me to comb my hair (pre- Sl's)or get a perm even my own father says hateful things about my hair he says I look like a fool, I can take insult from strangers but it's heart breaking when your own flesh and blood don't support you, but thak God for my husband because he loves my natural me. Hopefully one day my sistah's and brotha's will embrace the natural stuff that God created, and realize how freeing it is.
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Hello sweetie, hope that hair is growing growing growing.
By the way, YOU'VE BEEN TAGGED!!
Tee hee.
Angela, I am in upper level management and my locks have not affected my position negatively at all. I have noticed that a lot of men, black, white and Portuguese, have began to come onto me...not sure if it is the hair or the position LOL. I have to be very careful of both...I don't want ANOTHER man (my ex) that loves my hair more than he loves me. I cut my hair (long, silky and relaxed)down to my scalp once, and my then husband did not speak to me literally for 2 weeks. What I didn't see then is that he was all about appearances - very shallow.
Anyway, let me get back on track because I could go on and on about that ex of mine. My advice to you is to be professional on the work place at all times, do the job that you were hired to do and stand strong on your ethics and morals. The rest will follow.
What exchange were you speaking of joining LHBE? I'm a member and there are no fees associated. If this is the one, go for it. You don't have to wait until you get your locks. You can always go back in and update your picture.
Enjoy your journey!
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